A Wedding Vows Guide - Should I Be Traditional or Funny?
Amidst all the activities involved in the wedding planning, writing your wedding vows is perhaps one of the most difficult tasks that both the bride and the groom dread. This is especially true if you think that you do not have a flair for words - or for men who find it a bit difficult to express their emotions.
A Crash Course on How to Write Your Wedding Vows
In most Catholic wedding ceremonies, the "I take you as my husband/wife... until death do us part" speech is the traditional wedding vow. If this is the case, you can have a talk with the priest so that there will be a part of the ceremony where you can utter your personalized wedding vows before proclaiming you as husband and wife.
On the other hand, other religions or civil wedding ceremonies do encourage the bride and the groom to say their own vows.
No matter which of these two situations apply, one thing is clear: you do need to bring out that sentimental side of you in order to write your wedding vows. You need to come up with a speech that says out loud to your soon-to-be-spouse's family and friends exactly what your marriage promises are.
But what if you have no idea at all about how to write your own wedding vows? Here's a crash course on how you can accomplish this task - and a quick list of the writing tips that you need to keep in mind:
1. 'Psyche' yourself and go to a place where you can have some privacy.
With a pen and a notepad in hand, sit down and mull over the events of how you and your significant other got together.
How did you meet? What was the courtship like? How long have you been together? Were there particularly difficult challenges which you had to face together? How did the relationship change you as a person?
2. Decide whether you want to write a traditional or a funny wedding vow.
More on this later - but what's important is that you could take your pick from wedding vows which will take away the breath of your partner because it's so romantic - or one that will make the weddings guests chuckle wholeheartedly because it's so funny.
3. Make sure that your speech has a beginning, middle and an end.
Although you should keep your wedding vows short but sweet, it is still possible to have a beginning, middle and an end to your speech.
Describe how you felt when you first met your partner, how the relationship was like - and what you promise to bring to your marriage now that you're minutes away from being proclaimed as husband and wife.
Should I be Traditional or Funny with my Wedding Vows?
So should you go the traditional route when writing your wedding vows - or should you try and get a few chuckles out of your guests? Actually, it should all depend on your personality.
If you're the life of the party and you have the affinity to making other people laugh, then you should write funny wedding vows. Promise to love, honor and cherish your wife even if she can't make minced meat pie for you anymore because she's too busy taking care of your half a dozen kids - that should get a chuckle out of her. Or, squeeze in a line or two about a private joke that you've always teased each other with as a couple.
On the other hand, if you are more of the hopeless romantic type - then your weddings vows can be patterned from the traditional ones.
The good thing about writing your own vows is that they can be personalized so that the words will be all about you: how you feel towards your significant other, what your promises are and what is embedded deep within your heart. I know, I know - it may sound like it's too sentimental - but they're your wedding vows, after all!
At the end of the day, what matters is for your wedding vows to come from the heart - whether it's traditional or funny - and perfectly describe what you feel now that you're about to 'be one' with the person who you are spending the rest of your life with.
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